Let me Introduce Myself

My name is Melissa Fietsam and this is my journey! I’m just a regular “joe” from Ohio with 5 kids and a sense of humor to deal with life.  I love to share organizational tips and tricks on running your own business!

I am a retired Registered Nurse and I am now a stay-at-home mom who sells for a Direct Sales company.  I love sharing my journey in Direct Sales and this is how it all started:

Love my job!

I started my  journey in a very non-glamorous way.  A friend was having a party and I couldn’t attend, so she gave me a catalog to look at.  I loved the products and just wanted the kit and maybe to get some products for myself at a discount. So I signed up with no intention of selling.  At this point, I was a successful Registered Nurse working 60+ hours a week and had 3 children.  And to be quite honest, I didn’t even carry a purse.  I just loved the product. So my WHY started out as just wanting a product at a great discount.

But as time unfolded, I realize that God put that catalog in my hand for a reason.  My WHY is now an extremely powerful force in my life.  I’m not perfect, far from it.  But I am a strong, independent, and successful woman. And I attribute it all to the glory of God and my family and friends who have always been there for me whether I was successful or not.

You see, I didn’t graduate high school.  I dropped out and was going to take summer school, but i just decided to  get my GED, and then met my ex-husband at the age of 18.  I entered into a horrible marriage  of about 7 years and couldn’t have been any less miserable. We were on WIC (a kind of welfare that helps you with the basics) and the social worker looked at me one day and said, “you know, you’re a smart lady.  What do you want to do with your life?”  Took me by surprise, because no one ever cared what I thought or wanted.  I said, I’d like to go to school.  So she asked why I hadn’t.  My husband wouldn’t let me, I told her.  She said, “do you need him to let you?”  So she explained that I could get financial aid without his signature.  She encouraged me to go fill out an application and just talk with them.  I asked my husband one more time, he said “no” in a few choice words….so I went anyway. I enrolled while I was there.  The government was going to pay for every last penny of it, and she was right…I didn’t need his permission OR his signature.  So all in the same week I enrolled in college, I filed for divorce, I moved into my best friend’s house with my kids, and I got a part time job at Hollywood Video as a manager.  THAT was the start of my journey.

As soon as I graduated, a year later, I enrolled in nursing school and graduated with top honors.  Made my mamma proud.  I knew at that point I could do anything I set my mind to.  I lived in a 2 bedroom apartment with 3 kids for 3 years going through nursing school.  It was the toughest time in my entire life.  I was on welfare, food stamps, daycare subsidies, you name it…I was getting help with it.  I always worked part time, and finally was able to rent a house after I graduated.  Went straight into my bachelor’s degree and was working 3 jobs.  Two ER’s and teaching LPN’s on the side at a local college.  I had it all.  But I was still working 60+ hours a week.  I was drained.  I was beyond exhausted and I was not happy.  My life had no meaning other than reaching a higher level in my career.  I was accepted for my Master’s in Nurse Practitioner and ready to start classes when I became director and really started making some extra cash.  That’s when I realized I could really do something I love and make money while doing it.  I dropped out of the Master’s Program, focused on my company, and it has rewritten my story book ending.  God has provided for me all along.  In my darkest hours, as well as my finest.  The path has always been known to Him.  Follow your dreams, your God, and your heart, and you will never go wrong.

When I started focusing on building my team, that’s when the magic happened.  That’s when I became so overwhelmed knowing that I was helping other people’s lives. I was empowering other women.  I was giving them the gift that was given to me by that social worker.  And there was no turning back at that point.  My WHY is to share direct sales with as many people as I possibly can to let them know that they too can be successful.  That they are worthy of a better life.  I just want to be able to stay at home with my children, be the best mom I can be, and help others to do the same.  I am poor as dirt.  But I am now paying off debt that I’ve had since before I went to nursing school.  I paid off my last credit card in December of 2011.   I will remain broke for a long time, as I have $57,000 in student loans to pay off.  My goal is to pay off my car, some medical bills, then my student loans.  And it is all possible because of Direct Sales.  I’m not rich, I don’t wear fancy clothes, I never have a penny in my pocket…but what I do have is my own business, a gift that was given to me by a friend.  And I have made it my mission to pass it on.  That is my why.  To help other women…

Thirty-One Gifts

Melissa Fietsam

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25 thoughts on “Let me Introduce Myself

    31 Thirty-One Bags - Organize 365 said:
    October 8, 2013 at 8:02 am

    […] So, I don’t sell 31, but Melissa Fietsam does. She is an AMAZING leader in 31. You can read her transformation story here. […]

    Joe said:
    October 4, 2014 at 11:19 pm

    Cool ! Good goin!

    Cathy Evans said:
    January 1, 2015 at 10:07 pm

    Melissa, I am a Thirty-One sister and I LOVE your story! You are an inspiration! Thanks for sharing!

    Stephanie franklin said:
    July 7, 2015 at 12:00 pm

    Melissa I am a fellow consultant and just want to say you inspire me daily!! Thank you for being so real and sharing your journey with us. I’ve followed your YouTube channel for a while and I just adore you.

    Sherie said:
    July 29, 2015 at 8:56 pm

    Melissa, my director sent me the link to your blog last Friday, just before I departed for my FIRST Thirty-One National Conference. When they announced your name, I was screaming for you as if I was in your downline! I am so inspired by you! I am beginning my journey to directorship today. Thanks for being my inspiration!

      Melissa Fietsam responded:
      July 29, 2015 at 9:12 pm

      Oh I love it!! Get after it girl!!

    Mary Jo Purdom said:
    August 25, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    May I please get more infotmation on being a sakes rep for 31?Thank you

    Bonnie Sherrill said:
    September 7, 2015 at 11:06 am

    I have been a follower of yours for awhile and also a Director with Thirty-One Gifts. Your name goes out to all of my new team members and they are used to hearing me refer them to this blog! I also blog, although not about direct sales. However, I nominated you (and your blog) for the Sunshine Blogging Award. Check out my blog for details at http://www.acountrygirlsurviving.wordpress.com

      Melissa Fietsam responded:
      September 7, 2015 at 11:21 am

      Oh that’s awesome!! So very much appreciated and I’m so glad I’m helping you and your team. Makes my heart smile today:)

        Bonnie Sherrill said:
        September 7, 2015 at 11:30 am

        My real name is Brandi Watkins, btw! Lol

    Barbara Colgan said:
    May 2, 2016 at 8:52 pm

    I’m in thirty-one and would love to be added to your blog!! Thank you!

      Melissa Fietsam responded:
      May 29, 2016 at 9:42 pm

      You can click subscribe to get emails:)

    Beth kauffman said:
    May 2, 2016 at 8:55 pm

    Hi thx for all you do!

    Carri Mapes said:
    June 13, 2016 at 11:16 pm

    Watched your videos and you are great. I was very excited about the hostess of the month club, but looks like it’s protected for your downing only. Would love to see what you do!

      Melissa Fietsam responded:
      June 23, 2016 at 12:30 pm

      You can use the search bar on this page. I have a whole slew of things on it

    Teresa Stewart said:
    April 19, 2017 at 2:44 pm

    You are awesome!!! You’re an inspiration to me and many others!!!

    dryken31 said:
    May 13, 2017 at 2:34 am

    Hi Melissa,
    I lived in Fairview Heights. I also attended Belleville High School. I am quite a few years older than you. I love Thirty-One products. I just joined as a consultant for the third time. I struggle with bookings. I am going to keep at it until I build a team.

    I am just getting acquainted with a social media presence. I feel a bit overwhelmed. I know it will all make better sense the longer I do it. I just joined Hootsuite. I am not sure that is something I need but I am giving it a try.
    There has to be a better way to post things across platforms with ease.

    I love your idea about using lip balm with your info instead of business cards. I am going to try that. Keep up the good work!! I pray I get better at something over the next few months. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

    God bless you!

    You are an inspiration. I listen to your videos and I read your blog.

      Linda said:
      October 13, 2018 at 11:32 pm

      Where is the lip balm idea from on this site ?
      Its a great idea and I would like to see what else was talked about.

      I have a friend that has introduced me to 31 Gifts. So Does that mean that I would pay $25 for the membership for this site ?


        Melissa Fietsam responded:
        October 22, 2018 at 7:22 am

        Hi Linda. You can use the search bar on this page and type in chapstick or lip balm and it will pop up!
        The Elite group is $10 a month and you can find that on http://www.directlysocialtraining.com. I think that’s what you’re talking about?

    Connie( Connie) Smith said:
    May 23, 2017 at 4:31 pm

    Inspiring awesome!! I’m a CC RN in ICU/NeuroICU that is now “temporarily ” taking IMC pts. It’s horrible. All of my co-workers are tired, fed up and getting nowhere. I am in the RN union as an activist and trying to make things better. I’ve been an RN since 1991 and can’t retire!!!!
    I joined thirtyone but can’t seem to get ppl interested. Still trying. SO. Thus inspired me to do better and try harder and Ready for whatever YOu
    Can teach us and very appreciative!!!
    You’re AweSome and ROCK!!!

    Judy Bell said:
    July 8, 2018 at 1:47 pm

    I am looking for your shared documents for the Power Binder and can’t seem to find them. I would love to have them.

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